Smile Lady Cheat, you’re on spy camera!

Hidden cameras are quickly becoming the new best friend for many men who have wised up to the sexual “liberation” of the fairer sex. Men and women cheat, however, it is a misconception that men cheat more than women. There are some crude statistics that states that men cheat more than women but this is not necessarily a fact, women are just better at spotting male infidelity patterns.

A new study by the Daily Telegraph (03.09.2009), questioning 3000 women, found that 40% of women admitted to having affairs, compared to 30% of men. Furthermore, a survey by That’s Life! magazine (December 2004) found that half of all women would lie to their husbands or partners if they became pregnant by another man in order to maintain their relationship. Even more worrying is that one woman in two would not tell her partner that the child she is carrying is not his. Let’s not get started about the 42% of women who lie about contraception in order to get pregnant regardless of the wishes of her partner.

So is it a wonder then that men are turning to hidden spy cameras to monitor the movement of their other half? These cameras are so small that they can be hidden in everyday objects such as alarm clocks, pens, radios, and tissue boxes or even stuffed animals.

So why do women cheat?

Women cheat just like men but for very different reasons. The following are some of the justifications women give for cheating. One is for revenge. A woman may be getting her own back on her “cheating partner”. Or she cheats because she may feel that she is being ignored and not getting any emotional support at home.

Some women are unfaithful because they feel insecure in their current relationship. With a new relationship comes a sense of security and significance. If a woman believes that she is being taken for granted, not getting the attention or recognition she needs from her off-form partner, then she may seek that from a lover. Other reasons such as lack of affection, unsatisfactory sex life, absence from home, physical abuse and partner’s addictive behaviour (drugs, alcohol etc.) all contribute to women seeking companionship elsewhere.

Of course, a woman may go astray because she has fallen in love and no longer finds her current partner physically or emotionally attractive.

So what are the signs of cheating?

Women brag that they are much better at hiding affairs than men; this may very well be true given the number of unfaithful high-profile men that grace our front pages. However, there are four main behavioural changes to look for:

She takes an unusual interest in your schedule – this is simply to find out where you will be so that she can plan her rendezvous. She may also encourage you to go out more so as to justify her going out with her “friends”.

Gym membership – is she suddenly going to the gym, having a make-over, new hairstyle, new clothes? If she is not doing it for you, then she is doing it for him!

She is distracted – is she able to focus on what you two are talking about or does she seem distracted? Women have a propensity to daydream about their “new love” which often leaves them with a glow.

Irritable – this is a classic. She starts an argument over something trivial so that she can storm out to “clear her head”. She will be back much later, so don’t wait up.

What can you do?

There are various spying options available to the man who wants to find out if his loved one is cheating on him. As mentioned before the use of hidden cameras is quickly becoming the default option. They are small, discrete and inexpensive and require no technical knowledge. Digital telephone call recorders enable you to monitor telephone conversations with date, time and dialled numbers logged for playback. The use of a bugging device is a convenient way to listen to conversations in one room whilst you are in another. If you want to follow your partner but from the comfort of your own armchair, why not invest in a tracker? These inconspicuous devices will track your wife or partner’s movement and transmit it to you. The device will detail the time, date and location and period of stay straight to you.

Having gathered all your proof of her infidelity you may want to confront your partner tentatively. Women have a tendency of laying the blame of their affairs on their partners!

They say women are nurturers and men are hunters. Well, go hunt!!

by Patrick Andersonn